Tales from the Other Side

Any trouble that you are diagnosed with should respond to you. If you are told about the ancestral curse, you should feel in a sober state of consciousness that this sounds true, indeed, something in the family is murky and unclear, you should feel it in your heart. Not "Well, I don't know, well, maybe, but somehow unlikely, everything seems to be fine", but you should feel that all possible causes of the problem lies there and only there – feel intuitively. Otherwise, you will become an easy victim for crazy wizards with a badge "Do you want to remove the ancestral curse? Ask me how!"

The ancestral curse appears when the balance in the family is disturbed. For example, your grandmother fell in love with your grandfather when he was engaged with her best friend. Friendship was ruined, and a friend was offended and put a curse. It may be in verbal form literally screaming: “I hate you and I curse you” or have this pain deep in her heart. And your grandmother is ok, but her grandchildren are not, they are single and nobody knows the reason. It lies beneath logic, and the curse energy is very strong.

There are situations when the head of the family could not protect his relatives. For example, the father of the family went to war, left everyone, and his wife was offended that he abandoned her. And this energy of resentment remains in the family and does not go anywhere. There is the main problem – the energy stays in a circle and is not released, like a ball in a confined space, and somehow affects all family members.

Sometimes mother curses her own child – this could happen if mother suffered from pain from her lover or parents were against marriage. A lot of variations, but in general this pain stays within ancestral system. That’s what I have to do spiritually – to remove this resentment, this hurt. Even cases with sudden strong alcohol addiction being 30 years old when all descendants became alcoholics out of solidarity to the first drinker, have the base. There should be an initial reason why he had an addiction, usually unbearable pain – loss, hurt, etc. I should dig a little deeper and work with it now – while we have time and possibility. Sometimes it’s too late.

According to my experience, the ancestral curse is removed quite quickly, and if you have to do 10 sessions for that (for example, within systemic constellation program), there is something wrong. At the energy level everything works instantly, perhaps just your psyche is not able to accept such a speed. But the fact is that magic works either immediately or not at all.

Playing with death

Everybody has a friend who plays with death – extreme races, motorcycles, base-jumping, etc. And it’s not about adrenaline, this is literally challenging the Death. Sometimes it sounds like “Death, I’m not scared of you”. It sounds brave and reckless. Just remember, that the spirit of death is unpredictable and it may just stop the game and the person dies. Looks like casino – casino always wins. And death always wins. Gambling is unacceptable. Law of cause and effect works here – if you neglect the security rules, sooner or later the rules neglect you. In real life the person starts to be careless, which leads to fatal errors. From the spiritual point view if there is Death walking around, if you talk about it too much, you mention it often then you attract it into your life and you play with it, you gamble. The death is interested, and the person may rethink his behavior, turn into awareness and the Death loses its interest, “ok, let him live”. If the person played a black magician and attracted the chain of negative event into his life and he decided to apologize in his mind or making a ritual – ok, sorry, wrong door, then he will be forgiven if the damage is not very huge. In spiritual world nobody really wants to hurt you unless you cross the line. Not helping, not hurting – until you ask for it. Until you show your will. That’s how free will works.

If you lose your mind – well, open the gate, feet first. There is nothing bad in extreme sports, it is adrenalin, the way to feel alive – the point is the attitude to death, neglection, disrespect. You have to respect death and you have to respect life. Know your place and know when stop joking. And be safe.

Maleficium/ death spell

These spells work – yes, unfortunately, they do. The power depends on the magician's skills level and the weakness of the victim. If your magic kung-fu is stronger, you will win the fight. The ritual itself is nothing, what really matters is the energy of the master and energy of the one to whom the energy is directed. If the great master does a ritual (or sometimes even thinks about changing energy) to the frightened accountant – this will work. If a weak master does against Dalai-Lama – it will not work. With Dalai Lama no bad magic works since the level of his energy is much higher due to endless love and infinite compassion to all creatures.

The first signals of bad spell are seen immediately, and at this point the best you can do is to observe your life and rearrange something. Usually, the person does nothing at all – no reappraisal of values, no thought about life purposes, no changes, just goes with the flow. When something wrong in your life – please stop, maybe, you go the wrong way and it may lead you into the abyss. There are always signals like problems with health or relationships – something is definitely wrong. The flow starts to run wrong direction, you can feel insignificant changes. Your goal is to go back to normal life. You have to realize that something is wrong and change your way to where everything is right. Mindfulness is everything. Ordinary people cannot note the bugs of system therefore the bad spell works. You can put it away – and very often you have to go to the cemetery and talk to dead.

Murder

It’s sad, but people die as a result of homicide both intentional murder or manslaughter. Please note that murder as a program is always downloaded in life program years before it happens. If the man was killed, the key is in the past lives or ancestral system. In many cases such death is a kind of redemption for previous sins of the person and of the whole family. After scanning past lives we can find out that the murderer in this life was the victim in the past and therefore in present life the soul decided to create energy balance by changing roles.

Stories related to capital punishment and execution are also related to the past lives or ancestral system. It’s not happening without reason.

Should you be afraid of the dead?

Information about death is already soars in the space around the person. That’s why the death could be seen in photo, that’s a mark. According to my practice this mark could be seen 6 months prior to the real death. I admit that this information is accessible to make changes in life, move the death away, have negotiations with it or even make some preparations and finish all your current business here. Besides, it is extremely important to rearrange your mind so this leave could make maximum profit for your soul, not to feel sorry about your years wasted and use the period before death effectively – sometimes this is the only way to make your dreams come true. When you find out that you have only 6 months, you finally go to Venezuela or Cape Horn or wherever you wanted to go, you spread love and build strong and meaningful relationships.

It is useful to talk about death. A lot of traditions appreciate it, for example, famous essay of Seneca “Ad Paulinum de brevitate vitae” (On the shortness of life), there are a lot of Buddhist meditation as well. It’s about thinking how much time we have, thatdeath is inevitable and we should live our life consciously not wasting ourselves to small things. Seneca said: “It is not that we have a short time to live, but that we waste a lot of it. Life is long enough, and a sufficiently generous amount has been given to us for the highest achievements if it were all well invested. But when it is wasted in heedless luxury and spent on no good activity, we are forced at last by death’s final constraint to realize that it has passed away before we knew it was passing. So it is: we are not given a short life but we make it short, and we are not ill-supplied but wasteful of it… Life is long if you know how to use it.”

Thinking helps us to define our global priorities and what is important not only at this moment but matters for your soul. When you know you’re mortal, you change your attitude to life and start appreciate it more. This often happens when you ill, have a near-death experience and when you lose your close friends and relatives. Life is fragile.

We are afraid of death in our culture. A lot of tales from folklore tell us how dead man take away the alive ones, for example, mermaids (which in Slavic culture are the drowned girls with no fishtail) put chants on the strangers and drag them into the underworld. The cemetery magic based on myth that every dead man is ready to help your just for the piece of fresh meat. Death is all about mystery, and it’s scary.

You are scared because of lack of information. You are scared of unknown dead men, but you ok with your grandmother passed away when you were 10. Restless soul is something unknown, formless, some kind of devil, goblin or just dark figure. Boo! Cemetery is very scary at night. All the deceased are bad, they will drag you into the grave right into the hell and do scary things there with you. What a nice screenplay! And so untrue.

I got to tell you, life is even scarier. It all depends on which dead man we are talking about. If there is a restless soul – yes, we have all reasons to be scared. If there is a deceased not from your family – you should be scared too. But if there is a guardian spirit – everything could be fine depending on lifestyle of your relative, the way he died, what was he thinking, what was the conclusions in his head – these factors determine the further journey of the soul.

There are several ways where the soul can go after death. Before starting reincarnation process, there are few stages person should pass through. Shortly, if you lived your life well and died well, then you will be free. Died well means the understanding that he is dead, he went through burial rituals with prayers, where applicable. Everything was performed in accordance with rules and the person is gone to the Other side. If something was made wrong the soul may get stuck between the worlds.

Frankly speaking, rules are also not applicable sometimes. If the person was not very religious, all burials procedures will not affect him on energy level. It is just the following the rules. If the person was true Christian, the rituals matter. If he was atheist, his spirit will be indifferent if the body was buried or cremated with prayers or in silence. The most important thing is to calm the soul of the person you’ve known rather than following the rules.

Where exactly is the afterlife?

I would like to tell you the important thing. When one asks, where the soul is going, it is supposed that there are two ways out – heaven, up and hell, down. Sorry. Neither heaven nor hell. Neither up nor down. The souls are right here in our space, in our everyday life just before and behind us – we just don’t see them. As we can’t see the air, so we can’t see dead souls. You can break down air into molecules and alike the space has tiny cells for restless spirits, our beloved ones, etc. It is very important for understanding. And yes, just in front of you there is your dead grandmother. She has another form and structure now, that’s the difference. The older the death, the further the spirit and weaker the impact. As soon as you focus your attention on it, attract it, the energy will be activated. It’s not magic, it’s science, the quantum physics which states that object is changing when observed. All worlds and dimensions are around us, right here, we just can’t see them because of our minds, because of what we consider as reality, because we don’t want to open up our consciousness to light energies. I’m not saying about freeing your mind by any and all the ways like yoga, meditation, drugs (in some cultures this is the way to enlightenment, too), I mean the expansion of your perception to be mindful and sensitive. Training your intuition and sensibility to flows of energy is useful, it gives the feeling that you are not lost, that you live your own life, not someone else’s. These skills are not just for talking to ghosts. Believe me, though in media and in movies we see the romantic vision of medium’s life, in fact and in real life it is not easy at all. An there are a few real mediums, not only tv stars of psychic shows.

Afterlife is not the cemetery either. The cemetery is a spiritual storage of dead bodies, storage of energy of death. But is not afterlife. If it was, the connection with dead spirits would be possible on the cemetery only, but in practice to connect with the dead soul I don’t have to visit the place of his bury (it is very hard when the body is cremated). Afterworld is like Internet. It’s everywhere but it is accessible only if you duly connected. Any information of past or future is in the internet itself, you just surfing to find it. Where is the Internet? Somewhere here around us. Everywhere and nowhere. Just like that the dead souls and not bodies, they are souls. And soul is completely different energy.

Transition stage

I see the world as layers of information. When the person is sitting in front of me, on the left above I see his father’s side, on the right – mothers’ side, I can see the family of my client (both alive and dead). Late grandparents are above and a bit further. Overhead I see the divine channel and sometimes this channel is much brighter and stronger than ancestral channel. This means that connection with the god, angels, whatever you call them, is stronger that connection with family. In that case my clients often say that they feel they have a mission more important that build a family, build a house and grow the tree – very often it’s all about creativity, art, poetry, music, become a star, mission like serving people in any field. The deeper I go, the more I see and feel. All these layers are felt different.

Dead people are seen near the client and I see them as alive. Usually, they are dressed in clothes they were buried in or some other clothes recognizable by my client. Sometimes I see then younger (for example, the man died in his 80s, but I see him as he was 50 years old – this means his spirit still feels himself as 50-years-old man). Usually he tells me all information he needs to tell, all offences, desires, all his thoughts concerning why you come and don’t come to visit him in the cemetery.

~ Case from my practice ~

Once at mediumship session the soul of the dead husband told his wife Svetlana that she did all right on the funeral. Svetlana made very unusual and extraordinary funeral with piano and she was worried if his soul liked it. He did. Thank God. Moreover, he said some words in French, and Svetlana said that they are from his favorite song. I don’t know any French songs so it was definitely his message from the Other side.

The space of dead souls I call the Transition stage. At this level they tell me how long they are going to stay there. The Transition stage begins right after the physical death, but first 40 days they are closer to the edge separating the living world from the afterlife, therefore it is strongly recommended not to disturb this soul – it could just be stuck between the worlds. Based on my practice, 40 days are very approximate period, the “departure” may take 2 days less or 5 days more after that period.

Sometimes dead souls tell me why they are here on the Transition stage and give information how long they are going to stay there before they move to another level of transformation. Usually the transition period takes 7 years or more – within that period the person frees himself from his personality, ego, his memories, etc. The Transition stage is for everybody but not like the room for party where all dead souls meet and greet each other – this is special space same for everyone and everyone sees it differently. Everybody has to go through this but alone. It’s like apartment building where everyone has his own apartment but there are thousands of apartments and the building is one.

The moment of transition itself from the physical being to non-physical, when the person exhales for the last time, is quite painless, sometimes people have a dream the night before death or have some mystical experience where they understand by heart that death is not painful, not scary, that the Other side is bright and good. Dying is not scary at all.

The suicides are in other space and while on the Transition stage the dead one can join to his family and ancestors, suicides have no such opportunity, they are isolated. The ghosts and negative spirits are located between the transition stage and our world. They are connected to both worlds.

Transformation stage

After Transition stage the soul goes to the Transformation stage to connect with higher levels of being, to meet Spiritual guides or to become the ancestral Guardian spirit or to go to the Bank of Soul for the next incarnation. At this stage the person is absolutely free from his own ego, he becomes a pure soul, best Self, Deeper self, Spirit. The Soul can become the Guardian spirit for the descendants and only after that go to the Bank of Souls or may go to the God directly. This is what called nirvana, free from samsara wheel, and this is individual process. At the Transformation stage it's quite hard to catch the soul and there is no need to do that since the soul rests in peace – and you can feel it and you know it and you talk peacefully about that person, no pain felt.

Reincarnation stage

After Transformation stage the soul goes to the Bank of Souls to decide whether it will be reincarnated or not. The soul itself chooses the path to go but it still needs final approval on this stage. Here the further destiny of the soul will be decided – where to go, which body to be incarnated in – or to go to the higher levels of being. Moreover, if you ever tried regression therapy, you can find out whether the soul was “good” or “bad” and what to do with it – and there are Spiritual Councils who make that decision in a manner of spiritual report. Sure, it is not all that bureaucratic as it sounds but it is the space-between-worlds, rest place before the next spiritual journey. The place full of unconditional love, mindfulness and deep understanding of all divine processes. The place of decisions. I have to say that the human perception sees the energy as Councils, Guides etc in anthropomorphic expression of Global spirit which may be understood by every human, where in fact there is no form at all. Maybe there is Higher self who speaks to the soul, maybe, the God – maybe not.

Here the soul may be reincarnated to somebody else or to ready to be gone to the God. By God I mean not religious idea of God, but Cosmic, galactic energy, ocean of consciousness, incomprehensible, limitless and eternal energy.

Stage of liberation

When all tasks of the soul are done and solved, the person is free of endless chain of reincarnations and disappears in huge and incomprehensible Ocean of Nothing, endless eternity, embraces serenity and happiness and becomes a god himself.

Whether a person aware of his own death?

If death occurs as a result of disease or as a result of natural causes, then the person is aware that he is dead. The family will grieve but the soul free from ego and body in most cases feels a great joy and anticipates journey back home. Some people feel that syndrome – they want to go back home without knowing where this home exactly is – in spiritual terms. It’s a sadness in heart when you don’t feel connected to your real home, your family, to Earth at all. One can feel it sometimes when staring the stars, one embraces the Universe and feels lonely missing the home, the origin Home where we are all from. We miss the divine selves, miss the stardust which is still in cells of our bodies. Soul misses its home. This feeling testifies that by being busy in everyday life person misses something very important and even lives someone else’s life and goes the wrong way. Therefore, when a person dies, his soul finally comes back home and dives into Divine ocean of being.

Call before death

It’s not uncommon – maybe you’ve heard it or experienced in your own family – that right before death the person has a dream with his late ones calling to go after them. In this case the person realizes that the dream is about dead relative calling into afterworld directly. No misunderstandings. Usually the call comes two-three days before physical death, probably, providing time to be prepared to this serious spiritual journey, pay all debts both physical and psychological, to free oneself from decisions and unfinished business, to change thoughts and beliefs, to forgive someone or to be forgiven. The dreams like that are very good sign, since the person has time for preparation which means that the person lives mindfully and now has a chance to complete incarnation peacefully and be finally free.

In some traditions the third party comes to take the dead one, the Reaper. This Reaper may be the dead soul having such mission – to take the other souls away.

The dreams about death are quite clear and you cannot confuse them with regular dreams when your late grandmother asks to follow her and you don’t want to do it. When in dream you realize you cannot follow after her, these dreams are still bad and may lead to illness, financial problems etc, but not death. The Calling is very different and you just know that time has come, time to go.

~ Case from my practice ~

My client Tatiana had a dream where her dead father just stood and stared to his daughter with accusation. No words, just discomfort, almost physical. Next day Tatian’s son killed himself.

The death is predestined. You should put a huge amount of energy or strong will to change the course of events. In case of success, we say someone defeated the death.

What happens after death?

As we know, all life systems, including brain, fails. Biologically and legally the death of brain is the moment of death. Interesting that yogis of higher levels of practice can stop their breath and even modify the brain activity so no supersensitive technology may fix it – and go back to normal state of mind. It’s not that simple and the death of brain is very questionable. But sure not every yogi can do that so science considers the death of brain cells as the irreversible death of body and end of the physical presence.

After that the person cleanse himself from all his bounds, personality, ego and mental affection to himself, to the form, the body, thoughts and everything surrounding him. Affection to what he called himself and his life. Reality is different for everybody. All thoughts and energies about age, appearance, life, feelings, senses, emotions – everything he was when he was John Doe. Here is an example. When you meditate, at some point you stop existing and suddenly you realize that all your life including present moment and you in it is just an illusion and there is something inside you existed always and way before your birth and you have a strong connection with the god, with the Knowing self, guiding you both in very simple and global spiritual terms. Maybe you are a god yourself.

This erasure can happen in meditation and even during long monotonous work, long contemplation or eсstatic experience. It’s a moment when you ask yourself: Who am I? What am I? – and you know exactly that you are more than your identity card and reflection in a mirror and you are a spiritual being in cosmic space. It’s a moment when you observe yourself and don’t understand who is observer then? Where is the limit of you and the beginning of the Cosmos? It’s a moment when you realize that all social roles, all stories from childhood, youth and maturity created by you are all an outer shell but not real you. It’s just a part of you, the face but not soul. Personality – not soul.