From Survival and Suffering Questions to Questions of Choice. Authors Transformational Method by Uliana Sunny

Yes, there are situations in life that we do not choose.

We do not choose where we are born.

We do not choose our family.

We do not choose certain losses.

We do not choose the betrayal of other people.

We do not choose illness or difficult periods in our lives.

But we can always choose what we do next.

This is where true human strength begins.

Not when everything is going well.

But when life is difficult and we still choose to move forward.

If you feel afraid to make a choice, that is normal.

In fact, it can be a good sign.

Because fear often appears precisely where growth begins.

Where you step outside your familiar life.

Where you begin to become a new person.

You do not need to think:

“If I am afraid, it means I am not ready.”

No.

Sometimes fear means that you are standing right in front of something important.

The key is not to allow fear to control your life.

You need to look fear directly in the eyes.

Do not run away.

Do not pretend it does not exist.

Instead, acknowledge it:

“Yes, I am afraid.”

“Yes, I am afraid of making a mistake.”

“Yes, I am afraid that I might fail.”

But despite all of this — I am moving forward.

Because courage is not the absence of fear.

Courage is taking action despite fear.

I know this not simply from books.

I have experienced it myself.

My journey toward my goals was very difficult and full of obstacles.

And in the beginning, I had fears too.

The same fears that you may be experiencing right now.

I was afraid.

I doubted myself.

I wondered what would happen if I failed.

But then I began working on myself.

I began working with my thoughts.

With my consciousness.

With my attitude toward life.

And gradually, I realized something:

Fear does not disappear when we avoid it.

It disappears when we stop running away from it.

I even had an unusual experience.

At some point, my fear came to me in my dreams.

I began having dreams in which it would appear.

It was almost as if it were a separate person.

In my dream, it stood in front of me in the form of a man.

That was my fear.

At first, I was extremely afraid.

Every one of these dreams ended with intense tension and stress.

I would wake up feeling as though I had truly lived through that encounter.

Sometimes, after these dreams, I would notice gray hairs on my head.

Two or three hairs after each such dream.

It did not happen every day, but the fear kept coming back.

It returned again and again.

And do you know what was most interesting?

My fear, which had previously lived in my real life, seemed to have moved into my dreams.

There, in my dreams, my mind continued to fight it.

And one day I thought:

“I don’t want this anymore.”

“I don’t want to be afraid even in my dreams.”

“I want to be in control of this.”

And that was when I began doing what I had learned through my work on myself.