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So, what kinds of priority do programs have, anyway?

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And where does the SSP (species survival program) rank on that priority list?

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What happens when, inside someone’s head, their SSP, personal thoughts, and desires all go head-to-head?

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Why do SSPs get passed down the family tree?

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When do SSPs skip a generation and not get passed along?

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Chapter Variety and Classification of SSPs

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The world of nature today is wild and wonderfully diverse.

Take this for example: a guy goes and likes every single photo a girl posts—boom, that’s him putting his cards on the table, showing her he wants to mate.

National Geographic

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SSPs come with all sorts of twists and turns in their history and development. They can be all over the map in terms of type and form. Now, even though all SSPs have the same big goal—make sure the species has the best shot at sticking around—they pop up for all sorts of reasons and can work on totally different levels.

Because of this, modern science can classify them all sorts of ways.

Let’s check out a few examples of how SSP can be split up based on certain features.

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Part How deeply it sits in the subconscious

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Some SSP are interspecies, hardwired reflexes and pop up in a bunch of different species. For instance, the reflex to suck on your mom’s breast shows up in all live-bearing mammals.

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These interspecies reflexes are the old-timers—about as deep-rooted in the subconscious as you can get. That's why they're so tough to spot and control.

At the same time, there are SSPs that belong to just one species and are pretty fresh on the evolutionary timeline. These 'young' SSPs can be carried out more or less consciously.

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Take the habit of hitting the sauna—only humans on planet Earth get up to that. In the sauna, folks not only keep themselves clean, but also find a golden opportunity for some off-the-record chit-chat and tackling whatever organizational issues are on the table.

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Part Tactical and Strategic SSP

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– There’s nothing hard about women’s logic.

– But it’s tough to figure out how women come to their conclusions.

– You don’t need to know how, just why. The goal of regular logic is to reach the right answer; women’s logic is all about getting the answer she wants.

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There’s also this split into tactical and strategic SSP. The difference between the two isn’t always clear, especially if you’re just looking short-term, and sometimes they might even clash with each other.

Since the goals of tactical and strategic SSPs often don’t line up, the way they work can be pretty confusing—sometimes even totally at odds with each other. Tactical SSPs are all about helping someone make it through a crisis, in the thick of the action, here and now. Meanwhile, strategic SSPs set their sights on keeping bigger groups—and even the whole human species—going strong for generations.

The gap between tactics and strategy can be absolutely massive. For instance, after winning the Battle of Borodino, Napoleon quipped, 'One more win like that and I’ll be out of soldiers.'

When someone’s life is on the line, they can flip into SSP mode, which basically means their brain shoves everyone else aside and yells, ‘Save yourself!’ This usually pops up as fear, panic, total loss of control, and blackouts in memory. Later, they might describe how SSP kicked in by saying something like, ‘I don’t remember a thing—I just came to and suddenly I was somewhere else!’

When the strategic kind of SSP hits, you’ll see people ditch their own safety and happiness, often throwing themselves under the bus for women and kids (not even always their own, by the way)—and, voilà, that’s what keeps the species alive.

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SSP moves of the tactical variety are all about quick, obvious results—you can spot them a mile away.

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Strategic SSP maneuvers, on the other hand, don’t always stand out in the short run. Things only start to make sense if you zoom out to longer timelines—think, covering more than three generations—or if you take a good, hard look at a bigger mix of places and some solid stats.

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Take this: the so-called ‘honest merchant’s word’ really doesn’t mean much if you’re just thinking short-term. When you’re playing in tactical mode, a merchant might be totally down to pull one over on a customer or even a partner. But if he wants to keep his business reputation squeaky clean and make sure both his family and future generations don’t just survive but thrive, he’s got to play fair and look out for the family name. If he doesn’t, his family and clan might go downhill fast—or even fade into extinction—if they run out of clients.

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The gender split in SSP

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So a guy comes home from work, and after dinner his wife tells him:

"Honey, I joined a feminist club, and now I’m going to fight for gender equality—just like all the cool, progressive women out there." So now you’re doing your own dishes.

Alright, being the loyal friend and comrade I am, I’ll help you fight for equality. So, tomorrow, we’ll head to work together and haul the piano up to the fifth floor—by hand!

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Gender—or sex-based—division of the SSP is one of the flashiest and most obvious ones out there. What’s essential and helpful for the survival of one gender is often totally wrong or even downright bad news for the other, for all sorts of reasons.

For example, the SSP connected to protecting territory and family shows up in lions as that genetically hardwired mane. That glorious mane is basically nature’s version of a bulletproof vest—it shields a lion’s most vulnerable spots, like the neck and chest, during those epic brawls with other lions over turf and lionesses. Ladies don’t get this ‘armor,’ which could explain why they usually steer clear of those inter-pride rumbles.19

But even with all that protection, a lion’s mane can be a real headache in Africa’s scorching heat. If a lion’s been on the move too long, that mane can crank the heat up so much it turns him into a walking hot flash. That’s why the lion’s deal in the pride is to fend off other lions and rival prides during those short, dramatic showdowns. 20

When it comes to hunting and raising the kids, it’s the lionesses doing all the heavy lifting—let’s face it, only the maneless gals and young lions can sprint around in that blazing heat without keeling over. So really, for lions, the whole 'equality' or feminism thing just isn’t on the menu. No deep quotes or feel-good slogans are going to stop a majestic, shaggy-maned lion from overheating and getting woozy when it’s forty degrees out and the workout drags on.

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Gender differences in SSP are pretty much unavoidable, since every sex has its own mix of organs, hormones, and biological functions.

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Anytime one gender tries to claim the rights of the other without stepping up to the matching responsibility, it’s just plain absurd.

Power, rights, and privileges are only one side of the coin; the other side’s all about certain duties and responsibility.

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You just can’t have any rights without also shouldering the corresponding responsibility.

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And anytime you take on a specific responsibility, matching rights are bound to follow.

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Part SSP competition

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You just had to say it like this:

"Don't worry, I only cheated on you once in my whole life! —

And then, after a thoughtful pause, add:

– NONE of them are any real competition for you…"

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One of the most controversial types of SSP is SSP competition. On the one hand, competition helps some genetic lines (and the species as a whole) evolve. But on the flip side, that kind of development almost always ends up with some, or even most, of its members getting left behind or wiped out.

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Usually, intraspecific competition gets balanced out by having a boatload of offspring. But if there aren’t enough kids, that competition can actually wipe out the whole species.

On the flip side, if there’s no intraspecific competition for a while, that usually sends the species into a slow decline.

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Take canines, for example—most female dogs have massive litters every single year. If every pup made it, these critters would be running the whole world and scarfing down their entire food supply. But intraspecific competition constantly and systematically wipes out most of the pups among canines, making sure there’s no wild population explosion going on. Thanks to all the in-pack drama, only the alpha pair of wolves gets to have babies.22

In Disney flicks like The Lion King (2019), you get this heartwarming tale about a lion dad raising his cub and handing over the kingdom to his little heir. But in real life, the lion dad (and the lioness usually has a couple of blood brothers tagging along) is basically target number one when it comes to threats against the cub. See, in most predator species, the male’s dead set on wiping out any would-be rivals—even if they’re still just little tykes. And the female’s often forced to throw herself into defending the kids from their own dad.

That’s why, for people in the lower castes (0-3), the ‘father vs. kids’ showdown is pretty much unavoidable. It’s just the old SSP competition programs echoing through.

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Part Ethnic and national SSP

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So, a Chinese guy and a Jewish guy walk into a bar. The Jewish guy stared at the dude from the Mongoloid race for a while and finally asked:

– Excuse me, what’s your nationality?

– Me? I’m Chinese.

– So how many of you are there on earth?

– Oh, probably more than a billion.

– No kidding! Then how come we never see any of your folks around? It’s always just our crowd everywhere.

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Ethnic and national SSPs are also a spin-off of SSP competition. The deal is, when there’s a threat of getting wiped out by another ethnic group or nationality, everyone puts the drama on hold and calls a temporary truce. Someone from your own ethnicity or nationality is seen as a hometown buddy, a brother, you name it—and within that group, folks get everything from a little favoritism to full-on VIP treatment.

But when it comes to people from other ethnicities or nationalities—the ones you’re locked in competition with—things can get a bit spicy, ranging from subtle digs to open hostility.

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Here, SSP competition kicks things up a notch, and it’s not just about individuals anymore—it’s whole nations and ethnic groups facing off against each other. This sort of thing only happens when there are just too many ethnic groups or nationalities—or when they’re all thriving a bit too well.

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If those groups suddenly face a big, scary common enemy, all the squabbles between them can just vanish, since evolution doesn’t need that drama anymore. Of course, that takes time—the power structures have to change, and folks need to be willing to let go of personal gain or their little illusion of power for the sake of everyone. 24

For instance, if some seriously tough baddie from deep space shows up and attacks Earth, all those international squabbles? Poof—forgotten. Everyone’s busy joining forces to fight the one big threat. If not, the bad guy wins.

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Part Religious and philosophical SSP

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The Vedas: all those glasses? Just an illusion that drags the immortal soul right into the merry-go-round of Samsara. So, if you want to save your soul, you’ve got to break free and step off that endless carousel of reincarnation.

Buddhism: the glass isn’t even real. All that exists is the unhealthy urge to have the glass in the first place—which you’ve got to let go of if you want to get enlightened and hit Nirvana.

Solipsism: I’m the only one with a glass, and everything else is just my boozy fantasy—nothing more.

Islam: There is no glass but the Glass. And the Glassblower is His prophet.

Judaism: Why is the glass half-empty only for us? Why, Lord? Why?!

Orthodoxy: The glass is half-empty because of our sins! We’re just born sinful, through and through!

Catholicism: only bad people see the glass as half empty! That’s God’s plan in action.

Satanism: let’s glorify the Glass that fell off the table, for it is the Prince of this world!

Freudianism: as a kid, you never got a full glass, so now you subconsciously overcompensate and have unknowingly become a chronic alcoholic.

Stoicism: yep, the glass is half empty, but that’s exactly how it’s supposed to be according to the Higher Plan. For the Lord, in His mercy, shapes us on our path to Him through trials and hardships. Per aspera ad astra.26

Communism: everyone’s got a right to a full glass! And if someone has more than one, snatch ’em and share!

Socialism: the glass is half empty, but hey, at least it’s equally empty for everyone!

Yoga: you are both the glass and what’s inside it. Because the world around you is just your consciousness reflected back at you.

Pelevin: the glass isn’t empty or full—it’s not even a glass, really. It’s not you looking at the glass; it’s the glass looking at your projection of what you think it’s thinking about how you want to seem to yourself. Or maybe not.

Janitor Vasya: So, are we just sitting here, waiting for someone? Daydreaming about nonsense? Pour a drink or I'm gone!

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SSP competition takes place on higher informational levels. Here, it’s not ethnicities or nationalities fighting to survive and control their hosts—it's meta-ideas, worldview or philosophical systems, duking it out. In esoteric circles, they call these things egregors.2728

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This Chapter is just a quick rundown of the possible types and classifications of SSP. If you’ve got a bigger perspective and an eye for detail, this Chapter could easily stretch into hundreds of entries and a dozen layers deep. But honestly, it doesn't make much sense to do that here, since for most readers it’d just be information overload—and the curious ones can always go digging on their own if they feel like it.

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Part Practice Questions

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Did a good deed today!

Took a morning stroll with my pit bull, Caesar. I spot a guy sprinting to the bus stop, trying to catch his bus. He’s hustling, but it’s obvious he’s not gonna make it in time.

So, out of sheer goodwill, I let the dog off the leash with a dramatic ‘Caesar, go get ’em!’

Turns out, the guy actually made his bus after all…

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1) Hop online and check out some documentaries about lions or wolves—National Geographic style. Try to pick ones that take you through the animal’s whole life story, from conception to the very end.

Keep an eye out for those key, make-or-break moments in a predator’s life. How about drawing a parallel between the key moments and a person's life cycle?

2) So, how can you make sense of the classic parent-child drama through the idea of SSP competition?

What's the whole point of this program when it comes to keeping the human species alive? How do these things actually play out in society? Can you give some real-life examples where you can spot the SSP competition at work?

Any tips for flipping the negative effects of SSP competition into something positive—and even safe—within a single family?

3) What can explain things like national hatred and conflict through the lens of SSP?

What would happen if there was just one nation left? How would it go on evolving after that? What’s the big goal of these 'globalists' when it comes to nationalism?

4) How can we explain religious conflicts from the SSP point of view?

So, what if there’s only one religion left? How could it possibly keep evolving then?

5) What are the main physiological differences between a man and a woman? Give at least three. And what kind of medical issues can pop up during artificial gender reassignment?

6) So, what happens to a woman if she’s running low on estrogen—or swimming in it?

And what about a guy—what if he’s got too little or way too much testosterone?

What if a woman’s packing testosterone—or has too much of it? What’s the story there?

And what happens if a guy ends up with estrogen, or a ton of it? How does that even happen?

7) Fire up the Internet and find answers to these questions.29

What gets testosterone up and running in the human body?

And what sparks estrogen into action in the body? So, according to the stats, which nationalities are rocking higher testosterone levels? And what kind of consequences can that actually lead to? What natural substances do you know of that mess with people in a similar way?

8) What’s smart and forward-thinking about feminism—and where does it trip over its own shoelaces?

9) What would happen to humanity if every woman on earth suddenly went full-on, card-carrying feminist?

10) Now, assuming that women’s panic-level fear of mice is tied to SSP, how would you explain where that comes from?

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Chapter Castes and the Human Hive

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When he was a kid, Lenin wasn’t a pioneer, because he came from a family of nobles…

From a school essay

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The modern human hive30

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In the previous Chapter, we checked out how SSP can be sorted into different types.

After millions of years of evolution, humans have picked up hundreds, if not thousands, of SSP. A bunch of them are snoozing or have shriveled up, and some don’t get used at all during a person’s life.

Still, there are a handful of crucial SSPs that set a person’s place in society and reveal what’s going on inside them.

Let’s run through these main classes, highlighting the key SSPs that go with each one. No need to reinvent the wheel—let’s just borrow from the classic caste breakdown in Hinduism:31

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This is the 'zero level,' the absolute rock bottom on the evolutionary ladder. These are the folks living out their very first human life in the endless cycle of rebirths, otherwise known as Samsara. 33

Untouchables don’t have the SSPs they need to live in society, because they just haven’t had the chance to pick them up through a few rounds of reincarnation yet.

The karmic mission for Untouchables? Live out their very first life as a human, so their soul finally gets its VIP pass into the reincarnation circle. Put simply, they need to form a proper human soul. If an Untouchable gets knocked off in early childhood, their soul doesn’t have time to take shape, and that means no coming back as a human next time around. That’s why folks from this caste are called untouchables—because killing someone from this crew seriously weighs down the killer’s karma, and also knocks out all their other incarnations in one go.

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Climbing up the evolutionary ladder, we’ve got the Shudras next (think: servants, peasants, workers)—or, put simply, the working class.

The main gig for SSP in the working class is protecting themselves and their family, right down at the Muladhara chakra level (that’s Earth, baby!). Put simply, the evolutionary quest of your average working guy is to build a solid material and financial base for himself and his loved ones. He’s got to earn enough so his family can at least survive—and if he’s lucky, they’ll even get to live comfortably.

To make that happen, our working man has to master a skill that people actually need, and use it to score a decent life for himself and his crew. That’s no walk in the park, and for one guy to single-handedly support his entire family, he needs to be a high-level pro living somewhere with a halfway decent standard of living.

The one and only evolutionary (or karmic) goal for a working man is to become a hotshot pro everyone needs. By raking in the cash, he keeps himself and his family afloat—and at the same time, he’s building up that SSP in his kids’ genes.

The top of the food chain for a working guy? Becoming a master of his craft and earning serious dough. Even a so-called 'simple' welder with a high NAKS grade can pull in a great salary and stay in demand anywhere in the world.

You gotta realize, expecting more from a proletarian guy than just bringing home a paycheck is basically pointless. He just doesn't have any other key SSPs in his toolbox—nothing that’d let him play family protector, party superstar, or spiritual guru.

The Shudra caste? They're just your regular working folks, doing their thing and, honestly, not ready for much else yet.

A woman from the Shudra caste gets pretty much the same karmic quest. She's supposed to pick up a craft or trade and get decent at it—doesn't have to make money off it, just do it well. For example, she might become a housewife, and her grand evolutionary quest is to turn her husband’s paycheck into a warm and happy home.

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Part Vaishyas, or merchants

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The second rung on the evolutionary ladder is the Vaishyas, also known as merchants. This crew includes all kinds of folks working in trade and services. Their secret sauce? Emotional connections with customers—straight from the Svadhisthana level. The roster is epic: salespeople, couriers, money changers, sex workers, singers, musicians, circus performers, psychologists, entertainers—you name it.

Vaishyas also include those Shudras who’ve reached a high level of skill and get to set their own prices for what they make. Take Stradivari, the legendary violin maker—at the start, he was a Shudra, but once he learned to craft those one-of-a-kind violins, he leveled up to an entry-level vaishya.

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The secret sauce for jobs like that? It’s all about the smile, the charm, and a little bit of that irresistible charisma.

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There’s a twist, though: you can stand behind the counter, officially be a salesperson, but in reality, you’re still a Shudra, not a vaishya. Can someone really be so charming that you’ll buy something totally useless from a salesperson, just so you don’t hurt a nice person’s feelings?

Vaishyas are the folks who’ve totally nailed the art of making emotional connections and finding common ground with clients.

Vaishyas have a few evolutionary missions:

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knowing how to establish an emotional connection and speak the same language;

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figuring out what a client needs and actually giving it to them;

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coming up with compromises that keep both the client and the seller happy.

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The highest stage of vaishya development:

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being able to read the business vibes—in other words, having killer intuition;

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being able to keep your word—that is, following through on promises, no matter what, even if it costs you.

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The SSP that set vaishyas apart.